Let’s take a look at the seven most common pitfalls people face in trying to overcome stuttering and trying to work through this program or really any other program. The reason I say any other program is that I want you to be able to really take a look at these pitfalls and apply them to other areas in which you may be trying to improve or enhance your life or make changes. These are going to be some of the pitfalls that you and I often face. Okay, look at seven of them. The first pitfall that we’re going to look at is unrealistic expectations and what does that mean? Well, unrealistic expectations. Let’s break that down. Well, when we go through life and we enter into a new relationship or we purchased something or we desire to do something or make a change, we have certain expectations that is we have a picture in our mind of how we’d like it to be or how it’s supposed to be, how it’s supposed to go, right?
So we have this, this vision, this desire, these goals that we want to reach and that we feel like we should be able to reach and that it should go a certain way. These are our expectations. We want it to happen, what we think it should happen this way. And sometimes those expectations are unrealistic for whatever reason, maybe the person built them up. That is if you’re buying something, it was sold to. You’re marketed to you in such a way that your expectations were built up so that you felt like, wow, okay, this is it, this is, I’m going to get it. I’m going to get exactly what I was looking for. Right? That’s the whole sales marketing process. And so sometimes our expectations are built up where sometimes we build them up and they’re, they can be unrealistic, right? So we’re expecting something to happen that may not happen in the same way to the same magnitude or as quickly as we would like.
All right, so in this program, I don’t want you to have unrealistic expectations. I do want you to have expectations, positive expectations for yourself for the program. But I want them to be realistic. That means that you should expect. Now I’m dealing specifically with this program. You should not expect immediate results. Now you may get immediate results. I’ve had people write me back and say that they started using a portion of the program and they experienced results that evening. I was like, wow, I didn’t even expect that there are people who would use use the program for 90 days, maybe 60 days or 30 days in. They say, I’m not really seeing any results. I said, you got to give it some time. It took me a good six months. Right? So have realistic expectations that the time is going to be for everyone. It could take six months, could take eight months.
Mean I, I would say after six months, if you’ve really been using the program, you see no results. This just isn’t the program for you. Okay? But chances are you’re going to see some results and probably some significant reasons. So be realistic. Be patient with yourself. Understand that there’s going to be times where life happens. You’re gonna, you’re gonna not do the program for awhile. You’re going to get back on it, just keep doing it, no matter what. Be Realistic about the time. Be Realistic about the results that you’re going to experience. Don’t expect to get dramatic experiences overnight or in a week or a month or three months or even six months. If you’ve been starting for years, then it’s going to take some time to reformat that, to overwrite all of that history, all of that data, that information that’s been recorded in your subconscious mind.
Okay? Your self concept, which we’re going to talk about those things in this program, so ha, have realistic expectations, so pitfall one is unrealistic. Unrealistic expectations. Second pitfall. Don’t have a real compelling reason to stop stutter. We’re going to address this in the next session. Believe it or not, it’s not so much about the techniques that is the breathing or the way that you hold your mouth or your tongue. That can help, absolutely, but it’s not so much about that. It really is about why do you want to start speaking fluently? It’s that drive that’s going to move you forward. It’s going to motivate you and keep you motivated to do whatever it takes to stick in there for as long as you need to to overcome stuff, so you need to have a compelling reason and will once again, we’ll get so if you just are tired of it and you just want to stop stuttering, it may work, but I can tell you it’s probably not going to be enough.
So in the. In the next session that we look at, we’re going to talk about finding a compelling reason that is deciding why you want to stop stuttering, why you want to start speaking fluently, so not having a compelling reason can be a pitfall. Believe it or not. Pitfall number three, allow themselves to start doubting their ability to stop. That is getting you say, okay, this program, yeah, it could work. I mean, I feel I felt pretty good using it, but I been starting for a long time and I just don’t think that this just doing these things is actually gonna help me. I just can’t believe that. So it’s very difficult for them to actually see themselves as fluent as an excellent speaker, so allow themselves to start doubting what happens they’re getting in their own way and literally retarding or reversing their progress. Pitfall number three, allowing themselves to start doubting their ability to stop stuttering and start speaking.
Pitfall number four, what I call pseudo positive affirmations, pseudo positive affirmations. Here’s what I mean. Some sometimes people have used affirmations and I didn’t really work. One reason is that the affirmation wasn’t structured correctly. I’m going to teach you how to structure your affirmation correctly. So people have used affirmations like, I want to stop stuttering. I don’t stutter anymore, I’m not a stammer. Those probably will not work, or what I call pseudo positive affirmations, or in some cases negative affirmations. So in the program I’ll teach you the correct structure for using affirmations. Okay? And this is a critical part of the program, believe it or not, and it really does work not just for stuttering, stammering, speaking fluently, but for almost every other area of your life. Alright? Pitfall number four was pseudo positive affirmations. Let’s do a quick review. What was pitfall number three?
That’s right. Allowing themselves to start doubting their ability to stop. Pitfall number two, don’t have a real compelling reason. That is whatever that is and drive them to stick in there. Don’t have compelling reasons. Stop starting. Pitfall number one, unrealistic expectations. Okay, let’s look at pitfall number five. The don’t affirm often enough or with enough passion, so they maybe do affirmations and know this program isn’t just about affirmations. There’s a whole nother piece to it, but affirmations is an important part so they don’t affirm enough with enough passion and just do a little bit, well, I’m a great speaker and they do it a couple of times said, this isn’t working, this program sucks. Okay, so pitfall number five is don’t affirm. They don’t affirm enough or with enough passion and we’ll look at that. We’ll look at how to do that. Pitfall number six, stop affirming after a short period of time.
So they do the affirmations, they see the actually experience. I said, wow, this is working. Had someone writes me and say they just did the affirmation part of the program and that evening they had the most fluent speaking evening of their life. Right? So and then life happened and they stopped, so they, they stopped affirming after a short period of time they started and then they stopped us. Pitfall number six, pitfall number seven, and the final one is I don’t practice. So another part of the program is, it’s not just affirming, but it’s actually practicing and rehearsing your speaking. If any of you have ever seen the king’s speech, you’ll see that that’s a part of that. And as a part of other successful speaking programs is it’s not just the psychological, the mental exercise, but it’s the physical exercise of actually speaking, presenting and practicing.
Okay, so they don’t practice. Let’s do a quick review. Pitfall number one was unrealistic expectations. Pitfall number two, don’t have a real compelling reason to stop or start speaking fluently. Pitfall number three, allow themselves to start doubting their ability of fear and doubt. Pitfall number four, pseudo positive affirmations like, I want to stop stuttering. That’s not gonna work. That’s the wrong formulation. Pitfall number five, don’t affirm often enough or with enough passion so they don’t even believe what they’re saying themselves. Pitfall number six, stop affirming. After a short period of time, they did. Affirmations, saw that it worked, but they stopped. Pitfall number seven, don’t practice. That is they don’t actually do the other part of the program which is practicing, rehearsing and speaking. Okay, so these are seven most common pitfalls people face when trying to overcome stuttering. I want you to be aware of them because I want you to what starts with an a. avoid the pitfalls. I’ve given them to you. You know what they are. I want you to avoid them because I want you to unleash the power of your voice. I want you to become fluent and excellent speaker. I believe that this program can get you there. All right, so I’m going to see you in the next sessions. We jumped right into the program and talk about the first part of the dam strategy, which is decide why you want to stop stuttering and start speaking more fluently. Deciding why. So I’ll see you there.